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Bu yaz\u0131mda b\u00fct\u00fcn qad\u0131nlar, ki\u015fil\u0259rin, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 insanlar\u0131n ad\u0131ndan dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131ram\u2026 Yaz\u0131mdak\u0131lar he\u00e7 d\u0259 bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259t v\u0259 ya qad\u0131nlardan b\u0259hs etmir\u2026 B\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnyada qad\u0131nlar\u0131n bir \u00e7oxunun d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni \u00fcmumilikd\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcr\u2026
\nD\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, bu yaz\u0131m ist\u0259r qad\u0131n, ist\u0259r ki\u015finin qad\u0131nlar\u0131 anlama\u011fa k\u00f6m\u0259k ed\u0259c\u0259kdir\u2026
\nQad\u0131n\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni n\u0259 v\u0259 ya kimdir?
\n1.\tQad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc \u2013 cinsind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck dostu v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni onun \u00f6z\u00fcd\u00fcr\u2026 \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259m yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131q, h\u0259m d\u0259 pislik ed\u0259 bil\u0259r\u2026 Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc tam d\u0259rk etm\u0259diyind\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc sevm\u0259kd\u0259n savay\u0131, \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n d\u0259 ehtiyat etm\u0259lidir\u2026 \u0130nsan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 etdiyi pisliyi k\u0259nar \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r ed\u0259 bilm\u0259z\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnki k\u0259nar \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u0131n olsalar da, insana, onu onun \u00f6z\u00fc kimi yax\u0131ndan tan\u0131ya bilm\u0259z\u2026 \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 dost olun, d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n olmay\u0131n\u2026
\n2.\tBa\u015fqa qad\u0131n \u2013 bir qad\u0131n\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni dig\u0259r bir qad\u0131nd\u0131r, onun atas\u0131n\u0131, qarda\u015f\u0131n\u0131, \u0259rini, sevdiyini, s\u0259ad\u0259tini, arzular\u0131n\u0131, planlar\u0131n\u0131, x\u0259yallar\u0131n\u0131 \u0259lind\u0259n alan ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131n, qad\u0131n dig\u0259r qad\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259m r\u0259qib g\u00f6r\u00fcr, h\u0259m d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n bilir\u2026 El\u0259 qad\u0131nlar var ki, do\u011fma anas\u0131, bac\u0131s\u0131 bel\u0259 onun d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni ola bil\u0259r\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnki qad\u0131n sevdiyi zaman payla\u015fma\u011f\u0131 sevmir, eqoistliyi \u00fcst\u00fcn olur h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259, \u00fcf\u00fcqd\u0259 ba\u015fqa qad\u0131n olanda, sa\u011flam olmayan r\u0259qab\u0259t, pax\u0131ll\u0131q, q\u0131sqancl\u0131q hissl\u0259ri yaran\u0131r, q\u0259lbini z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259yir, ba\u015fqa qad\u0131n iki t\u0259r\u0259fin m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin\u0259 m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 ed\u0259n kimi ki\u015finin se\u00e7im etm\u0259k h\u00fcququ olur, ad\u0259t\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259ri da\u011f\u0131dan da dig\u0259r qad\u0131n olur, d\u00fczd\u00fcr indiki zamanda LGBT -l\u0259rin say\u0131 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 artd\u0131\u011f\u0131 zamanda ki\u015finin gey, bi v\u0259 ya transseksual\u0131n xeyrin\u0259 se\u00e7im edib, x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 yol verm\u0259si, ayr\u0131lmas\u0131 hal\u0131 da ola v\u0259 \u00e7oxala bil\u0259r\u2026 \u0130ndiki d\u00f6vrd\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n n\u0259y\u0259s\u0259 t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcb etmir\u0259m son zamanlar\u2026 Ki\u015fi ad\u0259t\u0259n bir qad\u0131ndan dig\u0259r qad\u0131na gedir\u2026 Qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti monoqam olsa da, ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti poliqam olurlar\u2026 Bu dan\u0131lmaz faktd\u0131r\u2026
\n3.\tQad\u0131nl\u0131qdan \u00e7\u0131xmalar\u0131, qad\u0131nl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 itirib ki\u015fil\u0259\u015fm\u0259si \u2013 qad\u0131n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00fccl\u00fc olsa da, ki\u015fi ail\u0259 ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131, \u00f6n\u0259mli t\u0259r\u0259f olmal\u0131d\u0131r, h\u00fcquq b\u0259rab\u0259rliyi olsa da, bir \u00e7ox m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131nlardan \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u2026 Qad\u0131n z\u0259rif olmal\u0131d\u0131r, nazl\u0131, qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f, ail\u0259canl\u0131, g\u00fccl\u00fc irad\u0259li, xarakterli, g\u00fcl\u0259r\u00fcz olmal\u0131d\u0131r, n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r i\u015fg\u00fczar olsa da, g\u00fccl\u00fc olsa da, ki\u015finin tapdalay\u0131b ke\u00e7m\u0259m\u0259lidir\u2026 Unutmayaq ki, qad\u0131n g\u00fccl\u00fcd\u00fcr, amma ki\u015fisinin g\u00fccl\u00fc, u\u011furlu olmas\u0131na da s\u0259b\u0259b onun qad\u0131n\u0131d\u0131r\u2026 \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz bir qad\u0131n kimi ki\u015fil\u0259\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259ns\u0259, ki\u015fil\u0259rimizi ki\u015fi ed\u0259k v\u0259 unutmayaq ki, h\u0259r g\u00fccl\u00fc v\u0259 u\u011frulu ki\u015finin arxas\u0131nda g\u00fccl\u00fc v\u0259 u\u011furlu qad\u0131n\u0131 var v\u0259 ya \u0259ksin\u0259\u2026 Qad\u0131nlar qad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 itirm\u0259yin, qad\u0131n oldu\u011funuzu unutmay\u0131n\u2026
\n4.\tQad\u0131n\u0131n dili \u2013 \u00e7ox ac\u0131d\u0131l v\u0259 ya \u00e7ox \u015firindil olmas\u0131 \u2013 Qad\u0131n\u0131n dili ilan z\u0259h\u0259ri d\u0259 ola bil\u0259r, ilan\u0131 yumas\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131xarda da bil\u0259r\u2026 Dil var k\u0259sdir\u0259r ba\u015f\u0131, dil var k\u0259s\u0259r sava\u015f\u0131\u2026 (\u0259slind\u0259 dil yerin\u0259 s\u00f6z olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u015e.\u0130.X\u0259tai)
\n5.\tDinl\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n \u00e7ox dan\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 \u2013 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259sas d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni onlar\u0131n dinl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259yidir, dinl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259yi onlar\u0131 \u00e7ox dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi dinl\u0259m\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xard\u0131r, bu is\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi yorur, bezdirir, anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131q, naraz\u0131l\u0131q, m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur\u2026 Dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131qca, dinl\u0259m\u0259yi d\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nin, s\u0259brli olun v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yar\u0131m\u00e7\u0131q k\u0259sm\u0259yin\u2026 Siz onu dinl\u0259s\u0259niz, o da sizi dinl\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k\u2026
\n6.\tT\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcr v\u0259 q\u00fcrur \u2013 b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar \u00e7ox t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcrl\u00fc, lov\u011fa olurlar, h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 yuxar\u0131dan a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 bax\u0131b, \u00f6zl\u0259rini s\u0259h\u0259rd\u0259n ax\u015famad\u0259k t\u0259rifl\u0259yirl\u0259r\u2026 Bu is\u0259 \u00e7ox yorucudur. Z\u0259if c\u0259h\u0259tdir, \u0259slind\u0259 bel\u0259 insanlar eqoist deyil, z\u0259if insanlard\u0131r, qad\u0131n n\u0259yis\u0259 lov\u011falanmaq, ac\u0131q verm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ala bil\u0259r, \u0259r\u0259 ged\u0259 bil\u0259r, hans\u0131sa i\u015fi lov\u011fal\u0131qdan, t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcrl\u00fc olma\u011f\u0131ndan ed\u0259 bil\u0259r, amma bu onu s\u0259hv add\u0131m atmas\u0131na, uduzmas\u0131na, u\u011fursuzlu\u011fa g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xaracaqd\u0131r. T\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcrl\u00fc, lov\u011fa insanlar\u0131n \u0259slind\u0259 ad\u0259t\u0259n h\u0259yatlar\u0131 m\u0259nas\u0131z olur, bo\u015f-bo\u015f dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b, s\u00f6z adam\u0131 olurlar, \u0259m\u0259l adam\u0131 deyil. V\u0259dl\u0259r verib, \u0259m\u0259l etmirl\u0259r\u2026 Yalan dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar\u2026 Q\u00fcrur \u0259slind\u0259 m\u0259nfi c\u0259h\u0259tdir\u2026 Q\u00fcrur b\u00fct\u00fcn pozitiv hissl\u0259ri \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcr, insan\u0131 u\u00e7uruma apar\u0131r, b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar o q\u0259d\u0259r q\u00fcrurlu olurlar ki, bu qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259 bigan\u0259lik, ikrah hissini oyad\u0131r\u2026 \u018fg\u0259r bir qad\u0131nda h\u0259m q\u00fcrur, h\u0259m d\u0259 t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcr varsa, onda o insanlar ad\u0259t\u0259n t\u0259nha insana \u00e7evrilirl\u0259r v\u0259 \u0259slind\u0259 \u0259n b\u0259db\u0259xt insan olurlar\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnki q\u00fcrurlu v\u0259 t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcrl\u00fc insanlar \u0259ld\u0259 etdikl\u0259rinin q\u0259drini bilmir v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 insana h\u00f6rm\u0259t etmir\u2026
\n7.\tQ\u0131z\u0131l ortaql\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmamas\u0131 \u2013 ya minimum, ya maksimum, ya he\u00e7 n\u0259, ya h\u0259r \u015fey prinsipi il\u0259 ya\u015famas\u0131, ya \u00e7ox sad\u0259, sad\u0259l\u00f6vh, s\u0259mimi, ya da \u00e7ox m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b, hiyl\u0259g\u0259r, yalan\u00e7\u0131, bic v\u0259 qapal\u0131 olmamas\u0131d\u0131r. Q\u0131z\u0131l ortal\u0131q yoxdur, dayanmaq, raz\u0131 qalmaq yoxdur, ya t\u0259l\u0259sib, \u00e7ox ir\u0259li gedirl\u0259r, ya gecikib, gerid\u0259 qal\u0131rlar\u2026 Ortada v\u0259 ya b\u0259rab\u0259rd\u0259 ola bilmirl\u0259r b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u2026 \u0130ki c\u0259bh\u0259y\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r, ya h\u0259dd\u0259n ziyad\u0259 t\u0259bii g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc olan qad\u0131n olur bir t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259, dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259 is\u0259 h\u0259dd\u0259n ziyad\u0259 \u00e7ox plastik \u0259m\u0259liyyat ke\u00e7ird\u0259n, makiyajdan istifad\u0259 ed\u0259n, s\u00fcni g\u0259lincik olan qad\u0131n olur, bir-biril\u0259rini g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259, \u0259l\u0259 sal\u0131rlar onlar\u2026 Ya \u00e7ox sad\u0259 geyinirl\u0259r, ya \u00e7ox epotaj geyimd\u0259 olurlar\u2026 T\u0259r\u0259zil\u0259rinin da\u015flar\u0131 uy\u011fun g\u0259lmir\u2026Ya \u00e7ox sad\u0259 olub, s\u0259mimi, sad\u0259l\u00f6vh olub, ham\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fc kimi bilib aldan\u0131r, ya da ki, \u00e7ox bic, m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b, hiyl\u0259g\u0259r, qapal\u0131 olub, maskalan\u0131r v\u0259 ham\u0131n\u0131 aldad\u0131r, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bel\u0259\u2026 Ya he\u00e7 n\u0259 ist\u0259mir, ya h\u0259r \u015feyi ist\u0259yir\u2026 Bu is\u0259 ziddiyy\u0259td\u0259n ir\u0259li g\u0259lir\u2026 Qad\u0131nlar ziddiyy\u0259tli v\u0259 f\u0259rqli olurlar b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar kimi\u2026 Ya fikirl\u0259rind\u0259 q\u0259ti olurlar, inad edirl\u0259r, ya da q\u0259rars\u0131z olub, tez-tez q\u0259rarlar\u0131n\u0131, fikirl\u0259rini d\u0259yi\u015firl\u0259r\u2026 Bu is\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 ziyand\u0131r, onlara qar\u015f\u0131 onlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 t\u0259tbiq etdiyi silahd\u0131r\u2026 Gah \u00e7ox simic olurlar, gah da \u00e7ox \u0259lia\u00e7\u0131q\u2026
\n8.\tTamahkarl\u0131q, h\u0259rislik, b\u0259hs\u0259b\u0259slik, b\u0259dx\u0259rclik \u2013 bu c\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259r \u0259slind\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131l ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmayan qad\u0131nlarda olur, n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr, e\u015fidir, bilir, ist\u0259yir, laz\u0131m olsa da, olmasa da, b\u0259hs\u0259b\u0259sdir dey\u0259, d\u0259bdir dey\u0259, bu is\u0259 onu b\u0259dx\u0259rc v\u0259 puldan as\u0131l\u0131 edir\u2026 B\u0259dx\u0259rc qad\u0131nlar is\u0259 laz\u0131ms\u0131z x\u0259rcl\u0259r edib, \u00f6z b\u00fcdc\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t ed\u0259 bilmir v\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r vururlar\u2026
\n9.\tKompleksl\u0259ri \u2013 bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlar\u0131n kompleksl\u0259ri olur, bu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc oldu\u011fu kimi sevm\u0259m\u0259k, q\u0259bul etm\u0259m\u0259k, b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259k, \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n naraz\u0131 olmaq \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmas\u0131 kimi qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni olan keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n yaranan d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ndir\u2026 Ya \u00e7ox ar\u0131q olmas\u0131, ya \u00e7ox k\u00f6k olmas\u0131, ya sa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259rt olmas\u0131, t\u00f6k\u00fclm\u0259si, sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011f\u0131nda problem olmasa bel\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 x\u0259st\u0259lik tap\u0131b, diaqnoz qoymas\u0131 kompleksl\u0259rdir\u2026 Bu kompleksl\u0259r is\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131 a\u011flas\u0131\u011fmaz add\u0131mlar atma\u011fa vadar edir\u2026 H\u0259tta b\u0259zi add\u0131m v\u0259 se\u00e7im, q\u0259rarlar onlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259, s\u0259hh\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 ziyan vurur\u2026 \u018flav\u0259 x\u0259rcl\u0259rin yaranmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur\u2026
\n10.\t\u00d6zg\u00fcv\u0259nin, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 inam\u0131m olmamas\u0131 \u2013 \u00d6zg\u00fcv\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 inanmamaq, z\u0259if xarakter, irad\u0259sizlik \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 m\u0259nfi c\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nidir\u2026 M\u0259hz bu d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nl\u0259r say\u0259sind\u0259 bir \u00e7ox dig\u0259r probleml\u0259r, d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nl\u0259r meydana g\u0259lir\u2026 Onlar\u0131 s\u0259brsiz, z\u0259if, irad\u0259siz edir, qurbana \u00e7evirir, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul ed\u0259, sev\u0259 bilmir \u00f6z g\u00fcv\u0259ni olmayan qad\u0131nlar\u2026
\n11.\tOnlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na daxil olan v\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xan ki\u015fil\u0259r \u2013 b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259r \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n olur, \u00e7\u00fcnki m\u0259hz ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 xo\u015f olmayan xatir\u0259l\u0259rin olmas\u0131, ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 nifr\u0259t etm\u0259si, ki\u015fini \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 r\u0259qib g\u00f6rm\u0259si, ki\u015fid\u0259n \u00fcst\u00fcn olmaq ist\u0259yi b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n ki\u015fil\u0259ri \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n bilm\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xard\u0131r\u2026 B\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na daxil olan v\u0259 sonradan \u00e7\u0131xan ki\u015fil\u0259r sonradan onlar\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nin\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259 bil\u0259r\u2026 Ki\u015fil\u0259r bu c\u00fcr qad\u0131nlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259inki d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259 m\u0259nb\u0259yi kimi qar\u015f\u0131lan\u0131r\u2026
\n12.\tX\u0259st\u0259lik \u2013 bu amil m\u0259nc\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r insanlar\u0131n \u0259sas qorxusudur, d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nidir, \u0259l\u0259xsus da qad\u0131nlar\u0131n\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnki bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlar ya i\u015fl\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn i\u015fd\u0259n qalmamaq, t\u0259hsil ald\u0131qlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259hsild\u0259 geri d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259m\u0259k, ail\u0259li olub u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259ndirm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, sa\u011falmaz v\u0259 m\u00fcalic\u0259 edilm\u0259z x\u0259st\u0259liy\u0259 yoluxub \u00f6lm\u0259m\u0259k, ail\u0259sini qad\u0131ns\u0131z qoymamaq, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 anas\u0131z qoymamaq, kim\u0259s\u0259 \u0259ziyy\u0259t verm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259kd\u0259n v\u0259 x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259ndikl\u0259ri zaman\u0131 x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259rini bilm\u0259kd\u0259n, m\u00fcalic\u0259 edilm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxur, ehtiyat edirl\u0259r\u2026 Sonra is\u0259 gec olur\u2026 Qorxular\u0131 realla\u015f\u0131r, x\u0259st\u0259lik qalib g\u0259lir\u2026 B\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 qad\u0131nlar x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259ndikl\u0259ri zaman bel\u0259 ev, ail\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131, probleml\u0259ri il\u0259 m\u0259\u011ful olacaqlar\u0131n\u0131 bildikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, b\u0259zil\u0259ri is\u0259 t\u0259nha olduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259mirl\u0259r v\u0259 x\u0259st\u0259liyi d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n bilirl\u0259r\u2026 B\u0259zi x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259r h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 qorxulu v\u0259 t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259lidir\u2026
\n13.\tQorxu \u2013 qocalmaq, g\u00f6z\u0259lliyini, a\u011fl\u0131n\u0131 itirm\u0259k qorxusu, n\u0259yis\u0259 v\u0259 ya kimis\u0259 itirm\u0259k qorxusu, m\u00fcxt\u0259lif fobiyalar \u0259slind\u0259 h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n say\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r\u2026 Qorxan g\u00f6z\u0259 \u00e7\u00f6p d\u00fc\u015f\u0259r, insan n\u0259d\u0259n qorxarsa, o da ba\u015f\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r\u2026 \u0130nsan\u0131n qorxusu onun z\u0259ifliyidir, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259sidir, qorxudan, z\u0259iflikd\u0259n dig\u0259r insanlar ona qar\u015f\u0131 sui-istifad\u0259, silah kimi istifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bil\u0259r\u2026 Bunu anlamaq v\u0259 bundan qorxmaq \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 qad\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir qorxudur. Qad\u0131n si\u00e7andan, at\u0131lmaqdan, x\u0259st\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259kd\u0259n, \u00f6lm\u0259kd\u0259n, g\u00f6z\u0259lliyini itirm\u0259kd\u0259n, sevilm\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n qorxa bil\u0259r\u2026 Qorxmay\u0131n v\u0259 fobiyalar\u0131nzla vidala\u015f\u0131n\u2026 H\u00fcnd\u00fcrl\u00fckd\u0259n, \u00f6l\u00fcmd\u0259n, qapal\u0131 m\u0259kanlardan, insanlardan qorxmaq \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, qorxunuzla \u00fcz-\u00fcz\u0259 g\u0259lin v\u0259 o qorxunu d\u0259f edin, m\u0259\u011flub edin. Qorxmaz insanlar h\u0259r zaman qalib olurlar\u2026
\n14.\tDeying\u0259nlik, naraz\u0131l\u0131q \u2013 h\u0259yatdan, h\u0259r k\u0259sd\u0259n, h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n naraz\u0131 qalmaq, \u015fikay\u0259t etm\u0259k, deyinm\u0259k, na\u015f\u00fck\u00fcr olmaq bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlarda var v\u0259 \u0259slind\u0259 bu c\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259r onlar\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nl\u0259ridir\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r verir\u2026 \u018fs\u0259bl\u0259ri korlay\u0131r, vaxt al\u0131r, m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259, davalara s\u0259b\u0259b olur\u2026
\n15.\t\u00d6zl\u0259rini qurban verm\u0259si v\u0259 qurban bilm\u0259si \u2013 bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlar b\u0259z\u0259n bil\u0259r\u0259k, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k, b\u0259z\u0259n k\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc, b\u0259z\u0259n icbari qaydada \u00f6zl\u0259rini n\u0259y\u0259s\u0259 v\u0259 ya kim\u0259s\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 qurban verirl\u0259r, qurbana \u00e7evrilirl\u0259r\u2026 Bu nadanl\u0131q, \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259nin olmamas\u0131, z\u0259if xarakter, irad\u0259sizlik, as\u0131l\u0131 vc\u0259 k\u00f6l\u0259 ruh, maarifl\u0259nmi\u015f olmamas\u0131 il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259lidir\u2026 \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc qurban verm\u0259yin, ay\u0131q olun\u2026 Aldanmay\u0131n\u2026
\n16.\tNadan olmas\u0131, d\u00fcnyag\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn olmamas\u0131, \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259m\u0259si v\u0259 inki\u015faf etm\u0259m\u0259si \u2013 b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z nadan olurlar, tez \u0259r\u0259 gedirl\u0259r, aldan\u0131rlar, qanunsuz u\u015faq do\u011furlar, sonra bo\u015fan\u0131b ortal\u0131qda qal\u0131rlar, kimins\u0259 qurban\u0131na \u00e7evrilirl\u0259r\u2026 Nadan olan, d\u00fcnyag\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn olmamas\u0131, \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259m\u0259si v\u0259 inki\u015faf etm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259si qad\u0131n\u0131 geriy\u0259 apar\u0131r v\u0259 u\u00e7uruma s\u00fcr\u00fckl\u0259yir\u2026 Bu c\u00fcr qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6vladlar\u0131 da anas\u0131 kimi qurbana \u00e7evril\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259 il\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015f\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r\u2026 Nadan olmay\u0131n, t\u0259hsil al\u0131n, \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259y\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259sm\u0259yin, \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rinizd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yin, inki\u015faf edin ki, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k n\u0259slimiz d\u0259, sa\u011flam d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259li, sa\u011flam ruhlu, b\u0259d\u0259nli olsun\u2026
\n17.\tPul, maddi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r \u2013 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n h\u0259m dostu, h\u0259m d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nidir, az olanda \u00e7ox ist\u0259yirik, \u00e7ox olanda, lap \u00e7ox ist\u0259yirik, pul \u00e7ox m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni, problemi h\u0259ll edir, \u00f6n\u0259mlidir, amma pul as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131q yarad\u0131r\u2026 Pul dig\u0259r b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nl\u0259rimizin yaranmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur\u2026 Yalana da, x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 d\u0259, s\u0259hv verilmi\u015f q\u0259rarlara da, sonrak\u0131 pe\u015fiman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131\u011fa da, insani keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri itirm\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259, tamahkarl\u0131\u011fa da, t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcr\u0259, t\u0259nhal\u0131\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b olur\u2026 Pulu, maddi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri m\u0259n\u0259vi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259n \u00fcst\u00fcn tutmay\u0131n\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bu yaz\u0131mda b\u00fct\u00fcn qad\u0131nlar, ki\u015fil\u0259rin, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 insanlar\u0131n ad\u0131ndan dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131ram\u2026 Yaz\u0131mdak\u0131lar he\u00e7 d\u0259 bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259t v\u0259 ya qad\u0131nlardan b\u0259hs etmir\u2026 B\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnyada qad\u0131nlar\u0131n bir \u00e7oxunun d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni \u00fcmumilikd\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcr\u2026 D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, bu yaz\u0131m ist\u0259r qad\u0131n, ist\u0259r ki\u015finin qad\u0131nlar\u0131 anlama\u011fa k\u00f6m\u0259k ed\u0259c\u0259kdir\u2026 Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ni n\u0259 v\u0259 ya kimdir? 1. Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc \u2013 cinsind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq b\u00fct\u00fcn […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13992","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-pub"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13992","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=13992"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13992\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13993,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13992\/revisions\/13993"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=13992"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=13992"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=13992"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}