{"id":14818,"date":"2015-09-10T17:30:26","date_gmt":"2015-09-10T12:30:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/?p=14818"},"modified":"2015-09-10T18:03:10","modified_gmt":"2015-09-10T13:03:10","slug":"sevgini-oldurm%c9%99yin-%c9%99sas-8-s%c9%99m%c9%99r%c9%99li-usulu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/?p=14818","title":{"rendered":"Sevgini \u00f6ld\u00fcrm\u0259yin \u0259sas 8 \u201cs\u0259m\u0259r\u0259li\u201d \u00fcsulu\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Bu yaz\u0131 Paritet q\u0259zetinin 11-12 may 204-c\u00fc il burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131nda d\u0259rc edilmi\u015fdir.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsanlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tini sevgi v\u0259 sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri, aralar\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin d\u00fczg\u00fcn olub-olmamas\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

B\u0259s g\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n, bizim insanlar aras\u0131nda olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rimiz d\u00fczg\u00fcnd\u00fcrm\u00fc, sevgidirmi?<\/p>\n

Bir m\u00fcdrik \u015f\u0259xs sevgini d\u00fczg\u00fcn anlamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yazm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r v\u0259 \u0259srl\u0259rin \u00f6tm\u0259sin\u0259 baxmayaraq, onun sevgiy\u0259 verdiyi bu mahiyy\u0259t v\u0259 s\u00f6zl\u0259ri \u00f6z \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tini v\u0259 m\u0259nas\u0131n\u0131 itirm\u0259mi\u015f v\u0259 g\u00fcnd\u0259md\u0259 qalmaqdad\u0131r:<\/p>\n

\u201cSevgi- \u00e7ox d\u00f6z\u00fcr, g\u00fcz\u0259\u015ft\u0259 gedir, pax\u0131ll\u0131q etmir, y\u00fcks\u0259klikl\u0259r\u0259 qald\u0131rm\u0131r, f\u0259xr etmir, h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259 g\u00f6z yummur, \u00f6z\u00fcnk\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc axtar\u0131r, q\u0131c\u0131qlanm\u0131r, q\u0131sqanm\u0131r, pis fikirl\u0259\u015fmir, yalana sevinmir, h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259 h\u0259md\u0259m olur, h\u0259r \u015feyi \u00f6rt\u00fcr, h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 inan\u0131r, \u00fcmid edir, h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 d\u00f6z\u0259r\u0259k ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131r. Sevgi- he\u00e7 vaxt \u0259l \u00e7\u0259kmir v\u0259 bezmir!\u201d<\/p>\n

Sizin sevginiz bu \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259r\u0259 uy\u011fundursa, dem\u0259li \u0259sl sevgidir v\u0259 sevm\u0259yi bacar\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z, \u0259ks halda sevginiz v\u0259 sevdiyinizi iddia etm\u0259niz qondarmad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

B\u0259z\u0259n biz el\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fck ki, biz d\u00fczg\u00fcn add\u0131m at\u0131r\u0131q, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rimiz is\u0259 \u0259lad\u0131r. He\u00e7 kim biz\u0259 ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259m\u0259lidir. Amma bu he\u00e7 d\u0259 \u0259mr v\u0259 h\u00f6km deyil, sad\u0259c\u0259 bir bax\u0131\u015fd\u0131r, subyektiv bax\u0131\u015f v\u0259 t\u00f6vsiyy\u0259dir. Sevdiyiniz \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 n\u0259 mane olur v\u0259 n\u0259 onu da\u011f\u0131d\u0131r?!<\/p>\n

Q\u0259ddarl\u0131q \u2013 sevgi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn q\u0259ddarl\u0131q olan yerd\u0259 ya\u015famaq \u00e7\u0259tindir. Bel\u0259 ki, sevgi il\u0259 q\u0259ddarl\u0131q iki \u0259ks anlay\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. Siz yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131q etdiyiniz \u015f\u0259xs\u0259 nifr\u0259t ed\u0259 bil\u0259rsinizmi? Ya da ki, b\u00fct\u00fcn q\u0259lbinizl\u0259 sevdiyiniz insana q\u0259sd\u0259n a\u011fr\u0131 b\u0259x\u015f ed\u0259 v\u0259 ya onu incid\u0259 bil\u0259rsinizmi? Real h\u0259yatda bu ba\u015f verir, \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 \u00e7ox sad\u0259 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259!B\u0259z\u0259n bu eqoizmlik, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 bigan\u0259likdir. Fiziki g\u00fcc t\u0259tbiq etm\u0259k, t\u0259hqir, s\u00f6y\u00fc\u015fl\u0259r, m\u0259n\u0259vi v\u0259 ya psixoloji t\u0259zyiq v\u0259 t\u0259hdidl\u0259r, \u015fantaj v\u0259 s.
\nAntipatiya -B\u0259z\u0259n cavanlar bir-biril\u0259rini zahir\u0259n v\u0259 s\u00f6zd\u0259 sevir, bir-biril\u0259rinin qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131na qal\u0131r, amma q\u0259lbind\u0259 h\u0259rd\u0259n v\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n \u00e7ox zaman antipatiya hissi oyan\u0131r. Onun t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n at\u0131lan b\u0259zi s\u0259hv add\u0131mlar bizi \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r, biz hirsl\u0259nir, inciyir v\u0259 n\u0259hay\u0259t, nifr\u0259t edirik. Q\u0259lbimizd\u0259 is\u0259 qar\u011f\u0131\u015f edirik. Antipatiya sevgini yaralay\u0131r, yaralanan sevgi m\u00fcalic\u0259 edilm\u0259dikd\u0259, m\u0259hv olur. Sevdiyiniz \u015f\u0259xs\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 yax\u0131n bildiyiniz \u015f\u0259xs\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 t\u0259qir edil\u0259si s\u00f6z v\u0259 t\u0259hqir ed\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etm\u0259k olarm\u0131?
\nUzaql\u0131q, soyuqluq-B\u0259z\u0259n biz yanl\u0131\u015f olaraq d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fck ki, bir az ara verm\u0259k, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri yenil\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn istirah\u0259t etm\u0259k v\u0259 m\u00fcv\u0259qq\u0259ti ayr\u0131 ya\u015famaq laz\u0131md\u0131r, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fck ki, sevgimizi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox s\u0259mimiyik, a\u00e7\u0131q oluruq. Bununla biz qorxuruq ki, s\u0259mimiyy\u0259timiz v\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131q olma\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bizim \u0259leyhimiz\u0259 biz\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 istifad\u0259 edil\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 bizi yaralayarlar bunu \u0259lind\u0259 silah etm\u0259kl\u0259. Uzaql\u0131q b\u0259z\u0259n bizi emosional z\u0259d\u0259 v\u0259 z\u0259rb\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n qoruyur. Amma biz etibar etm\u0259diyimiz, s\u0259mimi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, qapand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, tam a\u00e7\u0131la bilm\u0259diyimiz insan\u0131 sev\u0259 bil\u0259rikmi?
\nEtinas\u0131zl\u0131q -Bu daha \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259m\u0259y\u0259, q\u0259dir bilm\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259yir. Biz m\u00fcnasib\u0259l\u0259ri n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutuldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul edirik. Biz m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutuldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul edirik, ictimai \u015f\u0259kild\u0259, halbuki f\u0259rdl\u0259r f\u0259rqlidir, yana\u015fma, fikirl\u0259r d\u0259 f\u0259rdi v\u0259 f\u0259rqli ola bil\u0259r. \u018fslind\u0259 biz f\u0259rdi v\u0259 f\u0259rqliliyi q\u0259bul edib, onu oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul etm\u0259liyik. Sonra o daha uza\u011fa gedir. \u00c7ox d\u00f6z\u00fcb, ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq ist\u0259yimizd\u0259n sui-istifad\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Biz xo\u015flay\u0131r\u0131q ki, m\u0259n\u0259vi v\u0259 emosional sferada olan ehtiyac v\u0259 probleml\u0259r\u0259 etinas\u0131z yana\u015faq, madiyyat\u0131 t\u0259min ed\u0259k. Sevdiyimiz \u015f\u0259xsin xahi\u015fini yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259k imkan\u0131na malik oldu\u011fumuz halda, onu yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, o bizim m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rimizi yaralay\u0131r, etibar\u0131 v\u0259 sevgini k\u00f6k\u00fcnd\u0259n m\u0259hv edir.
\nH\u0259s\u0259d v\u0259 r\u0259qab\u0259t, b\u0259hs\u0259b\u0259s\u2013 \u0130nsan sevdiyi insana h\u0259s\u0259d apara, onunla sa\u011flam olmayan r\u0259qab\u0259t apara, b\u0259hs\u0259b\u0259s ed\u0259 bil\u0259rmi?Bunlar qeyri-s\u0259mimi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t v\u0259 hissl\u0259rdir, qeyri-s\u0259mimi v\u0259 qeyri-sa\u011flam h\u0259r bir amil sevgini m\u0259hv ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. Sevgi t\u0259biilik, s\u0259mimilik v\u0259 sa\u011flam d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 v\u0259 h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi, yana\u015fma t\u0259r\u0259fdar\u0131d\u0131r. U\u011fur, maliyy\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259ti, m\u0259n\u0259vi z\u0259nginlik, f\u0259rdi v\u0259 f\u0259rqli olmaq, dig\u0259r insanlar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fcy\u00fc v\u0259 nailiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri h\u0259r zaman pax\u0131ll\u0131\u011f\u0131n obyektl\u0259ri olmu\u015fdur v\u0259 olacaq da. Pax\u0131ll\u0131q yaln\u0131z o zaman rahatlan\u0131r ki, he\u00e7 kimin \u0259lin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u0259nd\u0259 o9lan h\u0259r bir \u015feyi m\u0259hv edir. Sevgi is\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n u\u011furuna v\u0259 m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259tin\u0259, pozitiv h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 sevinir. M\u00fcasir c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 pax\u0131ll\u0131q ke\u00e7icidir. O \u0259ks\u0259r par\u00e7alanma v\u0259 ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131n \u0259sas m\u0259nb\u0259yidir. R\u0259qab\u0259t v\u0259 b\u0259hs\u0259b\u0259s d\u0259 qeyri-sa\u011flam h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t v\u0259 davran\u0131\u015fd\u0131r v\u0259 da\u011f\u0131d\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r.
\nQ\u00fcrur-Q\u00fcrur olan yerd\u0259 sevgi ola bilm\u0259z, q\u00fcrur pozitiv h\u0259r \u015feyi bir anda m\u0259hv etm\u0259 g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u0259 malik olur, da\u011f\u0131d\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r, q\u00fcrur a\u011f\u0131l\u0131n v\u0259 q\u0259lbin, vicdan\u0131n \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nidir. Q\u00fcrur insanlarla m\u00fcnasib\u0259t quran zaman \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck mane\u0259dir.
\nQ\u0131sqancl\u0131q-Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q z\u0259iflik, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259k, inanmamaq, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc sevm\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n yaran\u0131r, \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259ni olmayan, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc sevm\u0259y\u0259n insan ba\u015fqas\u0131na nec\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259n\u0259, inana, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sev\u0259 bil\u0259r?!
\nYalan v\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t \u2013 Yalan v\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t bir d\u0259f\u0259 imkan yaranan kimi \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xan zaman d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 t\u0259krarlan\u0131r, y\u0259ni t\u0259krarlanmaq x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tin\u0259 malikdir. Bir d\u0259f\u0259 yalan dan\u0131\u015fan, x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs bunu d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259k, as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131q yarad\u0131r yalan da, x\u0259yan\u0259t d\u0259, narkotik v\u0259 dig\u0259r pis v\u0259rdi\u015fl\u0259r kimi el\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131q yarad\u0131r ki, imtina etm\u0259k \u00e7\u0259tin olur, irad\u0259sizlikd\u0259ndir, z\u0259iflikd\u0259ndir. Bir d\u0259f\u0259 g\u00f6z yuman, unudan, ba\u011f\u0131\u015flayan insan d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 bu t\u0259krarlanarsa, bez\u0259c\u0259k, sevgi is\u0259 inciyib \u00fcz d\u00f6nd\u0259r\u0259c\u0259k.
\nSevgimizin normal m\u00f6vcud olmas\u0131na mane olan \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259b v\u0259 \u00fcsullarla tan\u0131\u015f oldunuz. Onlar \u0259z\u0259ld\u0259n sevgid\u0259n k\u0259nar duran b\u0259zi hissl\u0259rl\u0259 z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259nir.<\/p>\n

\u018fsl sevgini v\u0259 ger\u00e7\u0259kd\u0259n sevdiyinizi d\u0259rk etdikd\u0259n sonra sevfikl\u0259rinizi v\u0259 sizi sev\u0259nl\u0259ri bu amil v\u0259 \u00fcsullardan uzaq tutun. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 r\u0259va bilm\u0259dikl\u0259rinizi ba\u015fqas\u0131na r\u0259va bilm\u0259yin! H\u0259yatda pislik d\u0259, yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131q da bumeranq kimi geri qay\u0131d\u0131r. N\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r qa\u00e7san da, s\u0259ni g\u0259lib tapacaqd\u0131r. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc aldatmay\u0131n!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bu yaz\u0131 Paritet q\u0259zetinin 11-12 may 204-c\u00fc il burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131nda d\u0259rc edilmi\u015fdir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tini sevgi v\u0259 sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri, aralar\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin d\u00fczg\u00fcn olub-olmamas\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u00fcr. B\u0259s g\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n, bizim insanlar aras\u0131nda olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rimiz d\u00fczg\u00fcnd\u00fcrm\u00fc, sevgidirmi? Bir m\u00fcdrik \u015f\u0259xs sevgini d\u00fczg\u00fcn anlamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yazm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r v\u0259 \u0259srl\u0259rin \u00f6tm\u0259sin\u0259 baxmayaraq, onun sevgiy\u0259 verdiyi bu mahiyy\u0259t v\u0259 s\u00f6zl\u0259ri \u00f6z \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tini v\u0259 m\u0259nas\u0131n\u0131 itirm\u0259mi\u015f […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14818","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-pub"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14818","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14818"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14818\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14819,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14818\/revisions\/14819"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14818"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14818"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14818"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}