{"id":30305,"date":"2019-04-23T04:00:43","date_gmt":"2019-04-23T00:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/?p=30305"},"modified":"2019-04-23T10:05:43","modified_gmt":"2019-04-23T06:05:43","slug":"irad%c9%99-aytel-qadinlarin-13-x%c9%99yan%c9%99ti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/?p=30305","title":{"rendered":"\u0130rad\u0259 AYTEL.\u201dQad\u0131nlar\u0131n 13 x\u0259yan\u0259ti\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Hardasa oxumu\u015fdum: \u201c\u018fm\u0259li x\u0259yan\u0259t fikri x\u0259yan\u0259tin a\u00e7\u0131q-a\u015fkar davam\u0131d\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n

Sevm\u0259d\u0259n ail\u0259 qurmaq qa\u00e7\u0131lmazd\u0131r, lakin sevm\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6m\u00fcr s\u00fcrm\u0259k g\u00fcnahd\u0131r! Sevm\u0259diyi ki\u015fi il\u0259 gec\u0259l\u0259rini payla\u015fmaq b\u0259d\u0259nini satma\u011f\u0131n bir n\u00f6v\u00fcd\u00fcr. N\u0259 f\u0259rqi var; m\u0259hr\u0259min\u0259, ya nam\u0259hr\u0259min\u0259, h\u0259r iki halda b\u0259d\u0259n t\u0259cav\u00fcz\u0259 m\u0259ruz qal\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Qad\u0131n \u0259rin\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131ndan biri kimi, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u0259n \u0259rk\u0259s\u00f6y\u00fcn \u00f6vlad\u0131 kimi yana\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r: \u0259zizl\u0259m\u0259li, qullu\u011funda durmal\u0131, yem\u0259yin\u0259, geyimin\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259lid\u0131r. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlarsa sevgid\u0259n do\u011fulur, \u0259g\u0259r sevgi varsa bu ist\u0259kl\u0259r qad\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7ind\u0259n g\u0259lir, \u0259ks halda, z\u0259rur\u0259t m\u0259cburiyy\u0259t\u0259 \u00e7evrilir v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131 m\u0259hb\u0259s\u0259 d\u00f6n\u00fcr. M\u0259hb\u0259sd\u0259 is\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik p\u0259nc\u0259r\u0259siz koma kimidir, soyuq, qaranl\u0131q, \u0259zici\u2026<\/p>\n

B\u0259z\u0259ns\u0259 bu m\u0259hb\u0259s x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 qap\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131r. H\u0259m d\u0259 qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tin\u0259(!). O x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 ki, ail\u0259l\u0259r da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r, k\u00f6rp\u0259l\u0259r yetim qal\u0131r, q\u0259tll\u0259r t\u00f6r\u0259dilir (yaxud da susulur\u2026)\u2026<\/p>\n

\u015eahidi oldu\u011fum son olaylar: Be\u015f u\u015faq anas\u0131 idi \u2013 bapbalaca be\u015f k\u00f6rp\u0259nin anas\u0131. Guya, (guya!) \u0259rin\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etmi\u015fdi. \u018fri \u015f\u0259xsi avtomobili il\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259n bir-ne\u00e7\u0259 d\u0259f\u0259 ke\u00e7\u0259r\u0259k (diri-diri) onu q\u0259tl\u0259 yetirdi (t\u0259sad\u00fcf\u0259n yolum onlar t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. H\u0259min k\u00f6rp\u0259l\u0259rin bax\u0131\u015flar\u0131 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259rim \u00f6n\u00fcnd\u0259di)\u2026<\/p>\n

Yenic\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmu\u015fdular, \u0259ri h\u0259y\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259ki \u00e7arhovuza salaraq bo\u011fdu\u2026<\/p>\n

\u0130ki u\u015faq anas\u0131 idi, qarda\u015f\u0131 Rusiyaya apararaq yuks\u0259km\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259li binanin doqquzuncu m\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259sind\u0259n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 atd\u0131 (sa\u011f qald\u0131);<\/p>\n

\u00dc\u00e7 k\u00f6rp\u0259 anas\u0131 idi, \u0259ri v\u0259 yax\u0131nlar\u0131 diri-diri do\u011frad\u0131lar\u2026 v\u0259 s. v\u0259 ilax\u0131r\u2026 Bunlar sad\u0259c\u0259 son zamanlar\u0131n hadis\u0259l\u0259ridi, h\u0259m d\u0259 h\u00fcquqi v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi t\u0259sdiqini tapmayan hadis\u0259l\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Hans\u0131 halda qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259t edir?<\/p>\n

\u018fvv\u0259ld\u0259n onu deyim ki, a\u00e7\u0131qlayaca\u011f\u0131m x\u0259yan\u0259t n\u00f6vl\u0259rinin ham\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda irad\u0259sizlik durur. X\u0259yan\u0259ti yaln\u0131z irad\u0259si z\u0259if olan qad\u0131nlar edir.<\/p>\n

\u018frini sevmir, bu sevgini ba\u015fqas\u0131nda tap\u0131r;
\nKi\u015fi qad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcv\u0259nc yeridir, g\u00fcv\u0259ncini itirir;
\n\u018frinin ona x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyini e\u015fidir, heyif \u00e7\u0131xmaq q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lir;
\nMaddi \u00e7\u0259tinliy\u0259 d\u00f6zm\u00fcr;
\nEhtiras\u0131 g\u00fcc g\u0259lir (\u0259ri uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t yan\u0131nda olmad\u0131qda).
\n\u018fri t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n h\u0259r g\u00fcn zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa v\u0259 h\u0259qar\u0259t\u0259 m\u0259ruz qal\u0131r (cinsi zorak\u0131l\u0131q, fiziki zorak\u0131l\u0131q, saymamazl\u0131q\u2026 \u0259r qad\u0131n\u0131na m\u0259h\u0259l qoymur, ev\u0259 gec g\u0259lir, ail\u0259sin\u0259 diqq\u0259t ay\u0131rm\u0131r, s\u0259rg\u0259rdan h\u0259yat ke\u00e7irir, u\u015faqlar\u0131na kobudluq edir);
\nR\u0259fiq\u0259sinin \u015firin s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 uyur, aldan\u0131r;
\n\u018fri cins\u0259l h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 normal ya\u015faya bilmir;
\n\u018fr arvad\u0131na h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verir;
\nQad\u0131n evlilikd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 normal cins\u0259l h\u0259yat ya\u015fam\u0131r (m\u00fcxt\u0259lif \u00fczl\u0259r g\u00f6r\u00fcr);
\n\u0130\u015fi, qazanc\u0131, v\u0259zif\u0259si \u0259rind\u0259n y\u00fcks\u0259k olur\u2026
\n\u018fsil-n\u0259slind\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 meylli kims\u0259 olur v\u0259 genetik olaraq ke\u00e7ir (t\u0259sdiqini tapm\u0131\u015f h\u0259qiq\u0259tdir);
\nV\u0259 adic\u0259 maraq, yaxud da har\u0131nlam\u0131\u015f h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi.
\nYuxar\u0131da sadalananlar \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259, x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 b\u0259han\u0259dir. Bel\u0259 b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259ri is\u0259 ad\u0259t\u0259n sevm\u0259d\u0259n ail\u0259 quranlar g\u0259tirir.<\/p>\n

Qald\u0131 sevib evl\u0259nm\u0259k m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259, d\u00fczd\u00fcr, c\u0259miyy\u0259timiz h\u0259l\u0259 buna haz\u0131r deyil, ama zaman g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k sevgi o q\u0259d\u0259r y\u00fcks\u0259kd\u0259 olacaq ki, onun evlilik kimi b\u0259sit bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259 sonuclanmas\u0131na ehtiyac qalmayacaq. Sev\u0259nd\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259yi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259k sevgini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcld\u0259c\u0259k. Evlilik a\u011f\u0131l\u0131n g\u0259ldiyi n\u0259tic\u0259dir, sevgi is\u0259 \u00fcr\u0259yin. Bunlar\u0131n ikisi bir arada \u00e7ox nadir hallarda olur. Odur ki, sevm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn evl\u0259nm\u0259li, ya evl\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevm\u0259li, fikirl\u0259rind\u0259n uzaq olaraq sevm\u0259k v\u0259 sevilm\u0259k g\u0259r\u0259kdir. \u0259g\u0259r Tanr\u0131 s\u0259n\u0259 sevib-sevilm\u0259yi b\u0259x\u015f edibs\u0259, art\u0131q bu s\u0259ad\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n

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Hardasa oxumu\u015fdum: \u201c\u018fm\u0259li x\u0259yan\u0259t fikri x\u0259yan\u0259tin a\u00e7\u0131q-a\u015fkar davam\u0131d\u0131r\u201d. Sevm\u0259d\u0259n ail\u0259 qurmaq qa\u00e7\u0131lmazd\u0131r, lakin sevm\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6m\u00fcr s\u00fcrm\u0259k g\u00fcnahd\u0131r! Sevm\u0259diyi ki\u015fi il\u0259 gec\u0259l\u0259rini payla\u015fmaq b\u0259d\u0259nini satma\u011f\u0131n bir n\u00f6v\u00fcd\u00fcr. N\u0259 f\u0259rqi var; m\u0259hr\u0259min\u0259, ya nam\u0259hr\u0259min\u0259, h\u0259r iki halda b\u0259d\u0259n t\u0259cav\u00fcz\u0259 m\u0259ruz qal\u0131r. Qad\u0131n \u0259rin\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131ndan biri kimi, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u0259n \u0259rk\u0259s\u00f6y\u00fcn \u00f6vlad\u0131 kimi yana\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r: \u0259zizl\u0259m\u0259li, qullu\u011funda durmal\u0131, yem\u0259yin\u0259, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30305","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-edeb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30305","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=30305"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30305\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30307,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30305\/revisions\/30307"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=30305"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=30305"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=30305"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}