{"id":25774,"date":"2017-09-08T09:30:17","date_gmt":"2017-09-08T05:30:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/?p=25774"},"modified":"2017-09-08T09:35:00","modified_gmt":"2017-09-08T05:35:00","slug":"harika-ufuk-cekmek-uzerine-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/?p=25774","title":{"rendered":"Harika UFUK.”\u00c7ekmek \u00fczerine”"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Azerbaycan\u0131n K\u00fclt\u00fcr ve Edebiyat Portal\u0131n\u0131n T\u00fcrkiye temssilcisi<\/strong><\/p>\n

D\u00fcnyada kad\u0131n olmak \u00e7ok zor\u2026 Gazeteleri okumaya korkar olduk. Yine kad\u0131n cinayetleri, yine tecav\u00fczler, yine darp\u2026<\/p>\n

Birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn \u201cUnutmayaca\u011f\u0131z, unutturmayaca\u011f\u0131z.\u201d s\u00f6ylemlerinin ard\u0131ndan kocaman bir sessizlik\u2026 Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n eziyet \u00e7ekmedi\u011fi bir tek g\u00fcn ge\u00e7miyor. 2015\u2019te Adana Barosu Org tr\u2019de belirtilen istatistiklere g\u00f6re sonu\u00e7 \u015fudur:<\/p>\n

\u201cTemmuz’da erkekler 19 kad\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc; 12 kad\u0131n ve k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funa tecav\u00fcz etti; bir kad\u0131n\u0131 fuh\u015fa zorlad\u0131; 36 kad\u0131n\u0131 yaralad\u0131; 10 kad\u0131n ve k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funu taciz etti.2015’in ilk yedi ay\u0131nda erkekler 160 kad\u0131n \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc, 70 kad\u0131na tecav\u00fcz etti, 122 kad\u0131n\u0131 fuh\u015fa zorlad\u0131, 229 kad\u0131n\u0131 yaralad\u0131, 155 kad\u0131n\u0131 taciz etti. Temmuz ay\u0131nda toplam 78 erkek \u015fiddeti, cinayet, cinayete te\u015febb\u00fcs, taciz, cinsel \u015fiddet, tecav\u00fcz ve yaralama vakas\u0131 bas\u0131na yans\u0131d\u0131. Erkek \u015fiddeti vakalar\u0131n\u0131n y\u00fczde 24’\u00fc Karadeniz, y\u00fczde 20,5’i Marmara, y\u00fczde 20,5’i Akdeniz, y\u00fczde 18’i \u0130\u00e7 Anadolu, y\u00fczde 10’u Ege, y\u00fczde 4’\u00fc Do\u011fu Anadolu, y\u00fczde 2,5’i G\u00fcneydo\u011fu Anadolu b\u00f6lgelerinde ya\u015fand\u0131.\u201d<\/p>\n

K\u0131rsal kesimlerde \u201cTarla ve miras b\u00f6l\u00fcnmesin.\u201d diye akraba evlilikler s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcrken \u201cEmmio\u011flu attan indirir.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc dillere yerle\u015fmi\u015fti. Amcao\u011flu isterse o k\u0131z\u0131n ba\u015fkas\u0131na verilmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildi. \u00d6zellikle Do\u011fu\u2019da, G\u00fcneydo\u011fu\u2019da ve az da olsa G\u00fcney\u2019de \u201cBa\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 veren k\u0131z\u0131 al\u0131r.\u201d felsefesi h\u00e2kimdi. Bir yanda \u201cBerdel\u201d uygulan\u0131rken di\u011fer yanda \u015fu t\u00fcrk\u00fc s\u00f6ylenmekteydi: <\/p>\n

\u201c\u015eu derenin geveni
\nGeven sarm\u0131\u015f geveni
\nPa\u015fa\u2019dan emir gelmi\u015f
\nSeven als\u0131n seveni\u2026\u201d <\/p>\n

Bizim ku\u015faktakiler iyi bilirler, zaman\u0131m\u0131zda Anadolu\u2019da severek evlenmek ay\u0131p say\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Bu y\u00fczden sevmeye korktuk. Bizim ailede de annemle babam\u0131n \u00f6\u011fretilerine g\u00f6re akraba \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 karde\u015f, kom\u015fu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 karde\u015f, s\u0131n\u0131f arkada\u015flar\u0131 karde\u015f say\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131k. Etraftaki herkesle a\u011fabey- karde\u015f oldu\u011fumuz ve severek evlenmek \u00e7evremizdekilerle b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizce ay\u0131p say\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in g\u00f6r\u00fcc\u00fc usul\u00fc d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir evlilik alternatifimiz olmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. <\/p>\n

G\u00f6r\u00fcc\u00fc usul\u00fcyle evlendik.(Bu arada g\u00f6r\u00fcc\u00fc usul\u00fcyle yap\u0131lan sa\u011flam evlilikler de var elbette\u2026 En yak\u0131n \u00f6rnek annemle babam\u0131n evlili\u011fi gibi\u2026) E\u015fin dostun, konu kom\u015funun, \u00e7\u00f6p\u00e7atan kad\u0131n\u0131n tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131, ellerinde \u015feffaf jelatine sar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f be\u015f k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fclle bir kutu \u00e7ikolatayla huyunu suyunu bilmedi\u011fimiz damat adaylar\u0131 aile boyu kap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda\u2026 Titrek ellerimizdeki kahve tepsileriyle b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00f6zler \u00fczerimizde iken damat aday\u0131n\u0131n y\u00fcz\u00fcne bile bakmaktan \u00e7ekinerek k\u0131zaran yanaklar\u0131m\u0131zla ne k\u00e2buslar ya\u015fad\u0131k.<\/p>\n

S\u00fckl\u00fcm p\u00fckl\u00fcm oturu\u015flar\u0131, utanga\u00e7 halleriyle ellerini koyacak yer bulamayan damat adaylar\u0131 k\u0131z\u0131 al\u0131nca aslan kesildiler birden\u2026 Ve evlendikleri kad\u0131n\u0131n surat\u0131na a\u015fk ettirdikleri tokatla ellerine yer buldular. O yere \u00f6yle al\u0131\u015ft\u0131lar ki \u201cPatates k\u0131zartmad\u0131n.\u201d \u015eak bir tokat\u2026 \u201cYeme\u011fi yakt\u0131n.\u201d \u015eak bir tokat daha\u2026 \u201cEvden \u00e7\u0131kmak yasak\u2026 Annenlere gidemezsin. Ayaklar\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131rar\u0131m senin!\u201d \u015eak \u015fak al sana yine dayak\u2026 \u201cPerde a\u00e7mak yasakt\u0131r. Teyp dinleyemezsin. Kom\u015fuya gidemezsin. \u201c Al sana tokat\u2026<\/p>\n

Sadece d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcne ve mesle\u011fine bak\u0131larak yap\u0131lan evlilikler ne kadar da sakat oluyor. Yeterince tan\u0131madan yap\u0131lan k\u00f6t\u00fc evlilikleri bitirmek de zor\u2026 Ailenize \u015fik\u00e2yet etti\u011finizde \u015fu cevaplar\u0131 al\u0131yorsunuz: \u201cKocand\u0131r, d\u00f6ver de sever de\u2026 Severken \u015fik\u00e2yet etmiyorsun da d\u00f6v\u00fcnce neden \u015fik\u00e2yet ediyorsun?\u201d \u201cBak k\u0131z\u0131m, beyaz gelinlikle girdi\u011fin koca evinden ancak beyaz kefeninle \u00e7\u0131kars\u0131n.\u201d \u201c\u00c7ekeceksin, hepimiz \u00e7ektik. Yar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n olsun bak nas\u0131l de\u011fi\u015fir? Hele bir o\u011flan do\u011fur da sen g\u00f6r bakal\u0131m nas\u0131l iyi olur aran\u0131z\u2026\u201d Sonu\u00e7 gazetelerin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc sayfalar\u0131ndaki haberler\u2026 \u015eiddete u\u011frayan kad\u0131nlar ve \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yine su\u00e7lanan ac\u0131 \u00e7eken kad\u0131nlar\u2026<\/p>\n

Ne oldu pembe d\u00fc\u015flerimize? Hep bu T\u00fcrk filmleri yakt\u0131 bizin nesli\u2026 Mum \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yemekler, pe\u00e7enin alt\u0131na saklanm\u0131\u015f hediyeler, kadehlerin dibinde sunulan s\u00f6z y\u00fcz\u00fckleri\u2026 Sand\u0131k ki hayat tozpembe\u2026 Mumlar sadece elektrik kesildi\u011fi zamanlarda mecburen yak\u0131ld\u0131 romantizmden olduk\u00e7a uzak\u2026 <\/p>\n

\u0130nan Durak Ta\u015f bir \u015fiirinde \u015f\u00f6yle demi\u015f:<\/p>\n

\u201cNe g\u00fczel k\u0131zlard\u0131k!
\nMesaj \u00e7ekmez, Foto\u011fraf \u00e7ekmez, Kredi \u00e7ekmez,
\nZincir \u00e7ekerdik.
\nAhhh \u00e7ocuklu\u011fum.\u201d <\/p>\n

Ah \u015fairim \u00e7ekti\u011fimiz zincirler elimize, aya\u011f\u0131m\u0131za, boynumuza doland\u0131. \u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kaybettik, sonra \u00e7ile \u00e7eker olduk biliyor musun? Foto\u011fraf \u00e7eksinler. \u00c7evrelerini iyice g\u00f6zlemleyebilsinler. Hayat\u0131 tan\u0131s\u0131nlar. Sevdiklerine mesaj \u00e7ekip birbirlerini iyi anlas\u0131nlar. Sevsinler, sevilsinler. B\u0131rakal\u0131m gen\u00e7ler foto\u011fraf \u00e7eksinler, mesaj \u00e7eksinler. Evlenmek, i\u015f kurmak, d\u00fcnyay\u0131 gezip tan\u0131mak i\u00e7in kredi \u00e7eksinler. Biz yeterince \u00e7ektik, onlar mutlu olsunlar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Azerbaycan\u0131n K\u00fclt\u00fcr ve Edebiyat Portal\u0131n\u0131n T\u00fcrkiye temssilcisi D\u00fcnyada kad\u0131n olmak \u00e7ok zor\u2026 Gazeteleri okumaya korkar olduk. Yine kad\u0131n cinayetleri, yine tecav\u00fczler, yine darp\u2026 Birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn \u201cUnutmayaca\u011f\u0131z, unutturmayaca\u011f\u0131z.\u201d s\u00f6ylemlerinin ard\u0131ndan kocaman bir sessizlik\u2026 Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n eziyet \u00e7ekmedi\u011fi bir tek g\u00fcn ge\u00e7miyor. 2015\u2019te Adana Barosu Org tr\u2019de belirtilen istatistiklere g\u00f6re sonu\u00e7 \u015fudur: \u201cTemmuz’da erkekler 19 kad\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc; 12 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-25774","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-turkiy-dbiyyati"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25774","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=25774"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25774\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25784,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25774\/revisions\/25784"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=25774"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=25774"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=25774"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}