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\u00c7OX EVL\u0130LY\u0130N S\u018fB\u018fB OLDU\u011eU \u00c7\u018fT\u0130NL\u0130KL\u018fR <\/p>\n

Yazaca\u011f\u0131m bu m\u0259qal\u0259 \u00e7ox evliliyin v\u0259 ya qeyri-qanuni ya\u015fayamlar\u0131n \u00e7ox zaman t\u00f6r\u0259tdiyi ziyanl\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r.Baxmayaraq ki,n\u0259inki m\u00fcs\u0259lman \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259,ba\u015fqa din\u0259 m\u0259nsub \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 ta q\u0259dimd\u0259n \u00e7oxevlilik olmu\u015f,hal-haz\u0131rda da davam edir.Bu b\u0259z\u0259n normal qar\u015f\u0131lansada \u00e7ox zaman t\u0259nqid h\u0259d\u0259fi olmu\u015fdur.M\u00fcasir z\u0259man\u0259mizd\u0259 texnikan\u0131n s\u00fcr\u0259tl\u0259 inki\u015faf\u0131 telefon,internet vasit\u0259l\u0259ri,x\u00fcsusi tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q \u00fcnvanlar\u0131 art\u0131qca \u00e7ox t\u0259ss\u00fcf ki,b\u0259zi y\u00fcng\u00fcl xasiyy\u0259tli qad\u0131nlar aldanaraq evli bir ki\u015finin ov torunun qurban\u0131na cevrilir.Marifl\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7oxlu bilik yerl\u0259ri olsada qad\u0131nlar\u0131 aldad\u0131c\u0131 ki\u015fi torundan qurtarmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn televiziya v\u0259 radio verli\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259 ,el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 x\u00fcsusi internet saytlar\u0131nda ,m\u0259lumatlar yay\u0131mlansada b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar onlar\u0131 ay\u0131ltmaq ist\u0259y\u0259n bu m\u0259lumatlardan yan ke\u00e7ir.Bu hadis\u0259ni ya ehtiyacdan qurtulmaq,\u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rd\u0259n azad olmaq ,xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq ist\u0259yiyl\u0259 ba\u011flay\u0131rlar.Sonradan onlara d\u0259y\u0259n z\u0259rb\u0259nin t\u0259sirind\u0259n ay\u0131ld\u0131qda is\u0259 \u00e7ox pe\u015fiman olsalarda t\u0259bii ki,sonrak\u0131 pe\u015fiman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q fayda verm\u0259z.Bel\u0259 aldan\u0131\u015flar\u0131n n\u0259tic\u0259si n\u0259 olur? T\u0259bii ki,qad\u0131n ucuzla\u015f\u0131r,adil\u0259\u015fir.<\/p>\n

Evli ki\u015fil\u0259rin toruna \u00e7ox zaman hans\u0131 qad\u0131nlar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr?<\/p>\n

Y\u0259qinki bo\u015fanmam\u0131\u015f bir ki\u015fi ba\u015fqa qad\u0131na meyil edib onu ya gizli ya a\u015fkar bir yerd\u0259 saxlay\u0131rsa dem\u0259li o \u00f6z qad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131 sevir,v\u0259 ondan imtina etm\u0259k ist\u0259mir.El\u0259 is\u0259 ikinci qad\u0131na yax\u0131nla\u015fmas\u0131 n\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259ndir?\u00c7ox-\u00e7ox anlarda bel\u0259 hallara s\u0259b\u0259b qad\u0131n\u0131n zahiri g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc v\u0259 y\u00fcng\u00fcl davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259b olur.\u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc ucuzla\u015fd\u0131ran qad\u0131n bel\u0259 bir iyr\u0259nc torun qurban\u0131 olur.El\u0259 qad\u0131nlar varki \u0259ri v\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu halda ba\u015fqas\u0131yla qa\u00e7\u0131r.Evli bir ki\u015fi is\u0259 ya gizli yada a\u015fkar h\u0259tta qad\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131na bel\u0259 qad\u0131n g\u0259tirir.Bu da \u00e7ox zaman bo\u015fanman\u0131n bir s\u0259b\u0259bi olaraq ail\u0259 da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r.Bir ail\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015fan\u0131rsa (t\u0259bii ki,y\u00fcng\u00fcl qad\u0131n)\u0259vv\u0259lki \u0259rind\u0259n intiqam almaq m\u0259qs\u0259diyl\u0259 ikinci,h\u0259tta \u00fc\u00e7 v\u0259 d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc evliliy\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259l at\u0131r.Bel\u0259 qad\u0131nlar haqq\u0131nda dahil\u0259rd\u0259n biri sitat da g\u0259tirmi\u015fdir:-Qad\u0131nlar q\u0259d\u0259r intiqam almaqdan z\u00f6vq alan yoxdur-(Juvenal)<\/p>\n

\u00c7ox evlilik v\u0259 ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131n ail\u0259d\u0259ki \u00f6vladlara t\u0259siri<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259d\u0259ki ayr\u0131lmalar ata-ana m\u00fcnasib\u0259tind\u0259ki uy\u011funsuzluq v\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t poz\u011funlu\u011fundan \u0259n \u00e7ox ail\u0259d\u0259ki \u00f6vladlar \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir.Atan\u0131n v\u0259 ya anan\u0131n ona yad olan ba\u015fqa bir insana meyilliyi \u00f6vlad\u0131n xasiyy\u0259tind\u0259 eqoistlik yarad\u0131r.Sanki o depresiyaya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.C\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ayr\u0131 hiss edir.O ata v\u0259 anas\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 daima q\u0259lbind\u0259 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flanmaz hissl\u0259rl\u0259,k\u00fcsk\u00fcnl\u00fck\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131r.Bel\u0259 ki,\u00f6gey valideyn \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 insan olsun bel\u0259 yen\u0259 valideyn do\u011fmal\u0131\u011f\u0131n ver\u0259 bilm\u0259z.<\/p>\n

\u015eahidi oldu\u011fum hadis\u0259<\/p>\n

M\u0259n yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m bu m\u0259qal\u0259 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u00e7ox hadis\u0259l\u0259rin \u015fahidi olmu\u015fam. V\u0259zif\u0259li bir ata \u00f6z ail\u0259sini at\u0131b,ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131nla ya\u015fay\u0131rd\u0131.Ail\u0259sini yaln\u0131z maddi c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n t\u0259min edirdi.Onun \u00f6vlad\u0131 \u00f6z ya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda atas\u0131n\u0131n onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u00f6nd\u0259rdiyi bahal\u0131 geyimd\u0259 bel\u0259 x\u0259cal\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kdiyinin \u015fahidi olmu\u015fam.Bel\u0259ki onun ya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda \u0259n kas\u0131b\u0131 atas\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259vazi\u015find\u0259n v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131ndan dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131qca v\u0259zif\u0259li \u015f\u0259xsin \u00f6vlad\u0131 k\u00f6vr\u0259lirdi.Bir ata ki,\u00f6vlad\u0131 yan\u0131nda olmayacaq onu ancaq madii yard\u0131mla t\u0259min ed\u0259c\u0259k o ata n\u0259y\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r? B\u0259z\u0259n bel\u0259 ail\u0259nin u\u015faqlar\u0131 \u00fczd\u0259 biruz\u0259 verm\u0259s\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 daxild\u0259 \u00e7ox \u0259zab \u00e7\u0259kirl\u0259r.Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir d\u00f6vl\u0259tdir.Onun n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u0259suliyy\u0259tli oldu\u011funa \u00f6t\u0259r\u0259mi n\u0259z\u0259r sal\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r? Bir a\u011f\u0131r y\u00fck \u00e7\u0259kil\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259 ,yar\u0131da at\u0131l\u0131b qa\u00e7\u0131lacaqsa n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ail\u0259 qurulur? Bir ail\u0259y\u0259 baxma\u011fa g\u00fcc \u00e7atm\u0131rsa onu yar\u0131da burax\u0131b ikinci v\u0259 ya \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc evlily\u0259 niy\u0259 add\u0131m at\u0131l\u0131r?M\u0259s\u0259l var:-bir \u0259ld\u0259 iki qarp\u0131z tutmaq.Niy\u0259 g\u00fcnah bir odun par\u00e7as\u0131sa bir ocaq edilir? Sevib-sevgisind\u0259n M\u0259cnun olacaq insan n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ba\u015fqas\u0131yla d\u0259yi\u015filir?<\/p>\n

Ayr\u0131lan qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259ri<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259d\u0259ki ki\u015fi \u00f6z ail\u0259sini at\u0131b ba\u015fqa bir yerd\u0259 ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nla ya\u015fay\u0131rsa onun \u0259vv\u0259lki qad\u0131n\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259mirs\u0259 \u0259ziyy\u0259ti daha \u00e7ox olur.U\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259r g\u00fcn atam-han\u0131?v\u0259 ya n\u0259 zaman g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k sual\u0131n\u0131 cavabs\u0131z qoyark\u0259n \u00e7\u0259kdiyi \u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259r,\u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n ist\u0259kl\u0259rin\u0259 madiyyat \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131,qon\u015fu u\u015faqlar\u0131n atalar\u0131 ev\u0259 g\u0259ldiyi zaman \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259min m\u0259nz\u0259r\u0259y\u0259 boynu b\u00fck\u00fck k\u00f6vr\u0259lmi\u015f halda baxmas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259n qad\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259min anlar \u00e7\u0259kdiyi \u0259zablar\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u00e7\u0259tindir. \u00c7ox zaman ail\u0259 yolunu ayr\u0131lmayan uzun bu yolu ikiy\u0259 b\u00f6l\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259t olur.\u00c7ox hallarda x\u0259yan\u0259t ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n t\u00f6r\u0259nir.Y\u0259qinki ki\u015fil\u0259r bu m\u0259qal\u0259ni oxuduqda m\u0259ni q\u0131nayacaq.M\u0259n bu m\u0259qal\u0259ni ancaq qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn\u00fc v\u0259 ail\u0259 y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7\u0259k\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259n o z\u0259hm\u0259t\u0259 al\u0131\u015fmayan ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 \u015famil edir\u0259m.\u00c7ox zaman bel\u0259 hallar imkanl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n t\u00f6r\u0259nir.Pulun \u00e7oxlu\u011fundan istifad\u0259 edib ba\u015fqa bir xan\u0131mla ya\u015famaq q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lirl\u0259r.H\u0259tta pulunun \u00e7oxlu\u011fundan lov\u011falan\u0131b:-m\u0259n n\u0259inki bir arvad h\u0259tta onun da ala bil\u0259r\u0259m-s\u00f6yl\u0259y\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 olur.Qad\u0131nlar m\u0259nd\u0259n sar\u0131 \u00f6l\u00fcrl\u0259r.Amma bel\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6l\u0259n qad\u0131nlar y\u0259qinki h\u0259min ki\u015fi \u00e7ox kas\u0131b t\u0259b\u0259q\u0259li bir s\u0259n\u0259t sahib olarsa(pulunu da\u015fdan \u00e7\u0131xaran olarsa) bir \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259yni pulunu g\u00fccl\u0259 qazanacaq olarsa ona t\u0259r\u0259f bel\u0259 baxmazlar.Bel\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r bilmir ki,bel\u0259 qad\u0131nlar onlar\u0131 yox onlar\u0131n imkan\u0131n\u0131 sevir.Bir g\u00fcn o imkan yox olduqda \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00fcz verdikd\u0259 ,x\u0259st\u0259lik ,qocal\u0131q \u00e7atd\u0131qda o qad\u0131nlar onu bel\u0259 tan\u0131mayacaqlar.\u018fsl sevgiyl\u0259 sev\u0259n yaln\u0131z bir qad\u0131n yan\u0131nda olacaq. Bu c\u00fcml\u0259mi ki\u015fil\u0259r unutmas\u0131nlar:-\u018fg\u0259r siz evli ola-ola bir qad\u0131n\u0131 sevib onu almaq onunla ya\u015famaq ist\u0259yirsinizs\u0259 o qad\u0131n da buna raz\u0131sa onda h\u0259min qad\u0131n sizi sev\u0259n yox sizin \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ninizdir.Biz m\u00fcasir d\u00f6v\u00fcrd\u0259 ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131m\u0131za baxmayaraq h\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z marifl\u0259nm\u0259yib.\u018fg\u0259r bunu t\u0259hsill\u0259 ba\u011flay\u0131r\u0131qsa yan\u0131l\u0131r\u0131q.Bizim n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rimiz m\u00fcharib\u0259 d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259rini k\u00fcll\u0259 boyay\u0131b k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xarm\u0131\u015f ki,kims\u0259 onu b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259sin.Namusuna bir eyib s\u00f6z deyilm\u0259sin.B\u0259z\u0259n b\u0259zi verli\u015fl\u0259r\u0259 bir qad\u0131n yan\u0131nda iki-\u00fc\u00e7 u\u015faqla \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rki b\u0259s m\u0259ni bir evli ki\u015fi aldad\u0131b qa\u00e7\u0131r\u0131b.B\u0259s sonrada bilm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m ki o evlidir bir ne\u00e7\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 da var.Bir dey\u0259n yoxdur ki biz zorak\u0131l\u0131q d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259mi ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q ki,s\u0259ni zorla qa\u00e7\u0131rs\u0131nlar? Yax\u015f\u0131 birini aldatd\u0131lar b\u0259s ba\u015fqalar\u0131?Utanmadan o ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n k\u00f6m\u0259k ist\u0259yirl\u0259r.Vay o g\u00fcn\u0259 ki\u015fi kas\u0131b adam ola.Onda bel\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r ki,birinci qad\u0131n\u0131n u\u015faqlar\u0131nin \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259yi al\u0131n\u0131b bu qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6vladlar\u0131na verilm\u0259l\u0131dir?<\/p>\n

\u00c7ox evliliyin ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 m\u0259nfi t\u0259siri<\/p>\n

\u00c7ox qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn\u00fc olubda qad\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 qad\u0131n g\u0259tir\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u00f6zl\u0259ri d\u0259 \u00e7ox zaman \u0259zab \u00e7\u0259kir.\u0130ki qad\u0131n v\u0259 ya bir ne\u00e7\u0259 qad\u0131n aras\u0131nda qal\u0131b onlar\u0131n \u00e7\u0259ki\u015fm\u0259si aras\u0131nda bo\u011fulan ki\u015fi t\u0259bii tez \u00fcr\u0259k x\u0259st\u0259si olur.Sevdiyi qad\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t edib pe\u015fiman olan ki\u015fi o qad\u0131na qay\u0131tmaq ist\u0259s\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259bii ki o qad\u0131n raz\u0131 olmaz.Bel\u0259 olduqda da ki\u015fi \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r vicdan \u0259zab\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kir.Zyal\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00e7ox zaman bir evlily\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verirl\u0259r.\u00d6m\u00fcrl\u0259rinin sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 bu evlilkd\u0259n z\u00f6vq alaraq ya\u015fay\u0131rlar.\u00c7\u00fcnki var d\u00f6vl\u0259t \u0259b\u0259di deyil.Bir g\u00fcn h\u0259r \u015fey yox olduqda m\u00fctl\u0259q bir ki\u015fi yan\u0131nda bir qad\u0131n qal\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259rimizin \u00e7oxu xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 x\u00fcsus\u0259n Rusiyada \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259k pulu qazanma\u011fa gedirl\u0259r.T\u0259bii ki,orada \u00e7oxusu rus qad\u0131n\u0131 il\u0259 qeyri r\u0259smi ya\u015fay\u0131r.N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lir.M\u0259n uza\u011fa yox tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m b\u0259zi insanlar haqda misal g\u0259tirm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m.Rusiyada el\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rimiz vark\u0131 rus qad\u0131nlar\u0131ndan olan u\u015faqlar\u0131ndan ba\u011f\u00e7a a\u00e7maq olar.Amma buradak\u0131 \u00f6vlad\u0131 atas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc bel\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u0259yib.T\u0259bii ki,h\u0259min ki\u015fi rus qad\u0131nlardan olan \u00f6vladlar\u0131na da baxmay\u0131r.Amma n\u0259 olsun ki,o rus qad\u0131n\u0131d\u0131r? Bir m\u00fcs\u0259lman ki\u015finin ani bir ehtirasdan bir ne\u00e7\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131 bel\u0259c\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259c\u0259k.M\u0259g\u0259r dind\u0259 bel\u0259 qanunsuz evliliy\u0259 icaz\u0259mi var? B\u0259zi g\u0259ncl\u0259rimiz varki Avropan\u0131n bir \u00e7ox \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 b\u0259zi ya\u015fam t\u0259rzin\u0259 h\u0259s\u0259dl\u0259 bax\u0131rlar.M\u0259nd\u0259 bir g\u0259nc\u0259m.He\u00e7 bir xarici \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 olmam\u0131\u015fam.Amma bilir\u0259m ki,b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rin h\u0259s\u0259d aparaca\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6z\u0259l ail\u0259 birliyi yaln\u0131z bizim \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259dir.\u0130ki insan bir-birini sev\u0259r\u0259k a\u011fsaqqal raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 il\u0259 ail\u0259 qurur.N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131 olur.Onlar\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u0259r ev-e\u015fik edirl\u0259r.H\u0259r bir ail\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6vlad n\u0259inki \u00f6z bibisini, xalas\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259tta babas\u0131 v\u0259 n\u0259nsinin uzaq qohumun bel\u0259 tan\u0131y\u0131r.Bu da insanlar\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 dar ayaqda k\u00f6m\u0259k etm\u0259sin\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k edir.Amma \u00e7ox xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6vlad atas\u0131n\u0131 anas\u0131n\u0131 bel\u0259 tan\u0131m\u0131r.\u00c7ox t\u0259ss\u00fcfki biz d\u0259 onlar\u0131n yoluna dey\u0259s\u0259n add\u0131m at\u0131r\u0131q.Bu yolun sonu is\u0259 u\u00e7urum v\u0259 ail\u0259 par\u00e7alanmas\u0131d\u0131r.M\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259ki qad\u0131nla ya\u015famaq ist\u0259m\u0259dikd\u0259 zor duruma g\u0259ldikd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t ver\u0259rdim:- \u0259g\u0259r evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259yiniz qad\u0131nla yola getmirsinizs\u0259 v\u0259 ya o \u0259xlaqs\u0131zl\u0131q v\u0259 o\u011furluq \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 c\u0259zalan\u0131bsa onu bo\u015fay\u0131n.Amma onun v\u0259 ondan olan \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn sonuna q\u0259d\u0259r imkan\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011fu q\u0259d\u0259r t\u0259min edin.Yoxsa onu ehtiyac i\u00e7ind\u0259 v\u0259 verdikl\u0259rinizi d\u0259 al\u0131b buraxmay\u0131n.R\u0259bbimiz d\u0259 h\u0259tta ail\u0259 ayrilmas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259dal\u0259tli olmas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259mi\u015fdir.<\/p>\n

–\u018fg\u0259r bir arvad\u0131n yerin\u0259 ba\u015fqa bir arvad almaq ist\u0259s\u0259niz, onlardan birin\u0259 (birisin\u0259) \u00e7oxlu mal vermi\u015f olsan\u0131z da, ondan he\u00e7 bir \u015feyi geri almay\u0131n.M\u0259g\u0259r bu mal\u0131 b\u00f6htan atmaq v\u0259 a\u015fkar bir g\u00fcnah i\u015f g\u00f6rm\u0259kl\u0259 geri alacaqs\u0131n\u0131z!?- Qurani-K\u0259rim-\u018fn-nisa sur\u0259si-(Qad\u0131nlar-20 ay\u0259)<\/p>\n

–Siz onu nec\u0259 geri ala bil\u0259rsiniz ki,vaxtil\u0259 bir-biriniz\u0259 yax\u0131n\u0131q etmi\u015fdiniz v\u0259 onlar (qad\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131z) sizd\u0259n m\u00f6hk\u0259m \u0259hd-peyman alm\u0131\u015fd\u0131lar.- Qurani-K\u0259rim-\u018fn-nisa sur\u0259si-(Qad\u0131nlar-21 ay\u0259)<\/p>\n

G\u00f6r\u00fcn r\u0259bbimiz n\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l qanunlar g\u00f6nd\u0259rmi\u015f v\u0259 qad\u0131n h\u00fcququnun tapdanmamas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn Qurani-K\u0259rimd\u0259 sur\u0259 (\u018fn-nisa-Qad\u0131nlar) g\u00f6nd\u0259rmi\u015fdir.<\/p>\n

B\u0259z\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 qad\u0131nd\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcnl\u00fcy\u00fc v\u0259 \u00e7oxevlilik bar\u0259d\u0259 irad tutduqda onlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini m\u00fcdafi\u0259 kimi:-Bizim dind\u0259 \u00e7ox evlily\u0259 icaz\u0259 verilir-deyirl\u0259r.M\u0259nd\u0259 m\u00fcs\u0259lmanam.A\u011fl\u0131m k\u0259s\u0259nd\u0259n dinimin bel\u0259 bir qaydaya icaz\u0259 verdiyini e\u015fitmi\u015fdim.Ya\u015fa dolduqca Qurani-k\u0259rimi oxuduqdan sonra bel\u0259 bir k\u0259lamla rastla\u015fd\u0131m:-\u018fg\u0259r yetim q\u0131zlarla (evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259yiniz t\u0259qdird\u0259) \u0259dal\u0259tl\u0259 r\u0259ftar ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yinizd\u0259n qorxars\u0131n\u0131zsa o zaman siz\u0259 halal olan (b\u0259y\u0259ndiyiniz) ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nlarla iki,\u00fc\u00e7 v\u0259 d\u00f6rd n\u0259f\u0259rl\u0259 nigah ba\u011flay\u0131n.\u018fg\u0259r onlarla da \u0259dal\u0259tl\u0259 dolanma\u011fa \u0259min deyilsinizs\u0259, o halda t\u0259kc\u0259 bir n\u0259f\u0259r (azad) qad\u0131n v\u0259 ya sahib oldu\u011funuz k\u0259nizl\u0259 evl\u0259nin.(yaxud:o halda t\u0259kc\u0259 bir n\u0259f\u0259r azad qad\u0131nla evl\u0259nin v\u0259 ya \u0259linizin alt\u0131nda olan k\u0259nizl\u0259rl\u0259 kifay\u0259tl\u0259nin)Bu \u0259dal\u0259tli olma\u011fa(\u0259dal\u0259td\u0259n k\u0259nar \u00e7\u0131xmama\u011fa)daha yax\u0131nd\u0131r.-Qurani-K\u0259rim-\u018fn-nisa sur\u0259si-(Qad\u0131nlar-3 ay\u0259)<\/p>\n

R\u0259bbimiz d\u0259 b\u0259nd\u0259sinin ail\u0259sin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 \u0259dal\u0259tli r\u0259ftar etm\u0259sini ist\u0259yir.\u018fdal\u0259tli olma\u011fa is\u0259 bir evlilyin daha m\u00fcnasib oldu\u011funu uy\u011fun bilir.H\u0259tta b\u0259nd\u0259sinin \u00f6z \u0259dal\u0259tin\u0259 \u0259min olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 ona \u0259dal\u0259tli yolu g\u00f6st\u0259rir.<\/p>\n

— Siz n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox ist\u0259s\u0259niz d\u0259 ,arvadlar aras\u0131nda he\u00e7 vaxt \u0259dal\u0259tl\u0259 r\u0259ftar etm\u0259yi bacarmazs\u0131n\u0131z .Bar\u0131 (birisin\u0259) tamamil\u0259 meyil g\u00f6st\u0259rib dig\u0259rini as\u0131l\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 (n\u0259 \u0259rli kimi \u0259rli n\u0259 d\u0259 bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kimi bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f) qoymay\u0131n.\u018fg\u0259r \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc islah edib (bel\u0259 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n)\u00e7\u0259kins\u0259niz (allah sizi ba\u011f\u0131\u015flayar).H\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n, allah ba\u011f\u0131\u015flayand\u0131r.R\u0259hm ed\u0259ndir- Qurani-K\u0259rim-\u018fn-nisa sur\u0259si-(Qad\u0131nlar-129- ay\u0259)<\/p>\n

Do\u011furdanda bu bel\u0259dir.Bir ki\u015fi ist\u0259s\u0259d\u0259 h\u0259r iki qad\u0131n\u0131na v\u0259 ya h\u0259r iki qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6vladlar\u0131na eyni ruzini,geyimi,m\u00fcxt\u0259lif ya\u015famaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn probleml\u0259ri h\u0259ll etsin bunu bacarmaz.Ya imkan buna \u015f\u0259rait yaratmaz ya da ki hans\u0131sa qad\u0131n\u0131n qorxu v\u0259 ya q\u0131sqancl\u0131q q\u0259z\u0259bi onu bu fikird\u0259n yan ke\u00e7m\u0259y\u0259 vadar ed\u0259r.Bu da \u0259dal\u0259tli olmaq ist\u0259rk\u0259n \u0259dal\u0259tsiz olmaqd\u0131r.Ax\u0131 hans\u0131 ki\u015fi eyni anda iki qad\u0131na eyni sevgini ver\u0259 bil\u0259r? M\u00fctl\u0259q h\u0259min anda qad\u0131nlar aras\u0131nda q\u0131sqancl\u0131q yaranar biri b\u0259lk\u0259d\u0259 ikisi o ki\u015fid\u0259n \u00fcz d\u00f6nd\u0259r\u0259r.H\u0259r bir qad\u0131n ist\u0259rki \u00f6z sahibini(h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n) yegan\u0259 ideal qad\u0131n\u0131 olsun.\u018fv\u0259zolunmaz olsun.Bir ki\u015finin eyni anda sevgisini v\u0259 ya ehtirasln\u0131 qazanan qad\u0131n y\u0259qinki \u0259xlaqs\u0131z qad\u0131n olar.Ya da ki g\u0259r\u0259k o ki\u015fi q\u0259lbi v\u0259 \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259ri o q\u0259d\u0259r t\u0259miz v\u0259 pak ola ki qad\u0131nlar aras\u0131nda sevgini b\u0259rab\u0259r b\u00f6l\u0259.Ancaq bel\u0259 sevgini hans\u0131 bir ki\u015fi ed\u0259 bil\u0259rki.M\u00fctl\u0259q evd\u0259ki qad\u0131n\u0131ndan gizli ba\u015fqa qad\u0131n yan\u0131na ged\u0259r.Ev\u0259 g\u0259ldikd\u0259 is\u0259 i\u015fd\u0259n gec \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131m v\u0259 ya qonaql\u0131qda idim dey\u0259rl\u0259r.M\u0259g\u0259r sevdiyi qad\u0131n\u0131 aldatmaq onu sevm\u0259kmi dem\u0259kdir?<\/p>\n

B\u0259z\u0259n deyirl\u0259r ki,pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rl\u0259rin d\u0259 b\u0259zil\u0259ri \u00e7ox evli olmu\u015fdur.Bildikl\u0259rimizd\u0259n:-\u0130lk pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimiz h\u0259zr\u0259ti Ad\u0259min haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fark\u0259n onun ad\u0131 yaln\u0131z bir xan\u0131mla h\u0259zr\u0259ti H\u0259vvayla \u00e7\u0259kilir.\u0130brahim pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259r Sara xan\u0131m ya\u015fl\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn,\u00f6vlad\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259zr\u0259ti Hac\u0259rl\u0259 evl\u0259nir.Allah\u0131n r\u0259sulu sonuncu pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimiz X\u0259diceyi K\u00fcbra v\u0259fat etdikd\u0259n sonra Ayi\u015f\u0259 il\u0259 evl\u0259nmi\u015fdir.D\u00f6rd xan\u0131mla evl\u0259ndiyi deyils\u0259d\u0259 h\u0259zr\u0259tin haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fark\u0259n \u00e7ox zaman yaln\u0131z bu iki xan\u0131m\u0131n ad\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kilir.T\u0259bii ki,yer \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259 pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rl\u0259r allah\u0131n el\u00e7il\u0259ri say\u0131l\u0131r v\u0259 onlarda b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00f6z\u0259l x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r c\u0259ml\u0259nmi\u015fdir.Onlar n\u0259inki bir h\u0259tta iki,\u00fc\u00e7 qad\u0131nla evlilikd\u0259 h\u0259r bir xan\u0131ma g\u00f6z\u0259l r\u0259ftar etm\u0259yi asan\u0131qla bacarm\u0131\u015flar,Onlar n\u0259inki \u00f6z zaman\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n sonrak\u0131 zamana bel\u0259 h\u0259yatda d\u00fczg\u00fcn ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u00f6nd\u0259rilmi\u015fdir.Onlar yer \u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcn m\u0259l\u0259kl\u0259ri idi.Onlarla ya\u015fayan qad\u0131nlarda onlarla f\u0259xt edirdi.V\u0259 h\u0259min qad\u0131nlarda m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259slik v\u0259 pakl\u0131q r\u0259mzi say\u0131l\u0131r.Pis \u0259m\u0259l v\u0259 pis x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n uzaq idil\u0259r.R\u0259bbimiz \u0259g\u0259r b\u0259nd\u0259l\u0259ri aras\u0131nda f\u0259rq qoymursa onun el\u00e7il\u0259ri d\u0259 zaman,zaman b\u0259nd\u0259l\u0259r aras\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259r\u0259k zaman\u0131n insanlar\u0131na f\u0259rq qoymam\u0131\u015fd\u0131lar.Bel\u0259 hallara sahib olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 bildiyimiz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259rimiz \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 b\u0259ra\u0259t qazand\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn din v\u0259 pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259n misal g\u0259tiril\u0259rs\u0259 yan\u0131l\u0131rlar.\u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r bir pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259r allah\u0131n el\u00e7isi v\u0259 \u0259dal\u0259t r\u0259mzidir.Onlar h\u0259r an \u00f6zl\u0259rini s\u0259birli tutma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlard\u0131r.Adi bir b\u0259nd\u0259 onlarda olan x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tin yar\u0131 faizi ola bilm\u0259z.Adi bir b\u0259nd\u0259 onlarda olan \u0259dal\u0259t\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 sahib ola bilm\u0259z.Hans\u0131 bir adi b\u0259nd\u0259 allah el\u00e7il\u0259rind\u0259n ba\u015fqa,m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sl\u0259rd\u0259n ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nlar aras\u0131nda \u0259dal\u0259tl\u0259 r\u0259ftar ed\u0259 bil\u0259r?Qad\u0131n aras\u0131nda eyni b\u0259rab\u0259r\u0259 sahib olmayacaqsa onlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda h\u0259r birin\u0259 eyni ruzini t\u0259n b\u00f6lm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259 eyni geyimi almayacaqsa o bel\u0259 evlilkd\u0259n uzaq olmal\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259zi m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sl\u0259r d\u00f6v\u00fcrl\u0259rind\u0259 is\u0259 qo\u015fun \u0259sg\u0259rl\u0259rind\u0259n v\u0259 yax\u0131n insan itkisind\u0259n ba\u015fsiz qalan qad\u0131nlar d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n \u0259lin\u0259 \u0259sir v\u0259 ya intiqam almaq m\u0259qs\u0259diyl\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259m\u0259k\u015f\u00fcn si\u011f\u0259 olunarm\u0131\u015f.Bu haldan da h\u0259min m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n d\u00f6vr\u00fcn b\u0259zi insanlar\u0131 sui istifad\u0259 ets\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 ama savadsiz v\u0259 namuslu qad\u0131n\u0131n qorunmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yad \u0259l\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qorunacaq vasit\u0259 idi.Amma o zaman\u0131n qad\u0131nlar\u0131 avam v\u0259 savads\u0131z oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn,i\u015f yerl\u0259ri olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ac-s\u0259fal\u0259td\u0259n qurtarmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qad\u0131n raz\u0131 idis\u0259 bu vasit\u0259 b\u0259z hallarda xeyirli idi.\u0130ndis\u0259 ki\u015fid\u0259n \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlar\u0131n savad almas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7oxlu t\u0259hsil ocaqlar\u0131,v\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn i\u015f yerl\u0259r vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Tar\u0131xd\u0259 d\u0259 bir \u00e7ox d\u00f6vr\u00fcn fironu ,\u015fah\u0131,xan\u0131,b\u0259yi,a\u011fas\u0131 qad\u0131nd\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcnl\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fcn v\u0259 \u00e7oxevlilyin qurban\u0131 olmu\u015fdur.Birinci xan\u0131m \u0259rinin hakimiyy\u0259tinin ikinci qad\u0131na qalaca\u011f\u0131ndan qorxub \u0259rini \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcb hakimiy\u0259t\u0259 sahib olmu\u015fdur.Bel\u0259 hallarda b\u00f6y\u00fck ail\u0259 par\u00e7alanmas\u0131ndan n\u0259inki h\u0259min ail\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck bir hakimiyy\u0259t d\u0259 ziyan \u00e7\u0259kmi\u015fdir.Bir ail\u0259d\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n ziddiy\u0259tl\u0259r b\u0259z\u0259n u\u011fursuz q\u0259l\u0259b\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 yol a\u00e7m\u0131\u015fd\u0131r.H\u0259tta q\u0259dim d\u00f6v\u00fcrl\u0259rd\u0259 ail\u0259 daxili m\u00fcna\u015fiq\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck hakimy\u0259tin par\u00e7alanmas\u0131na v\u0259 \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fcst\u0259qil ki\u00e7ik hakimy\u0259tl\u0259rin yaran\u0131\u015f\u0131na da s\u0259b\u0259b olmu\u015fdur.\u00d6lk\u0259d\u0259ki hakimiyy\u0259t z\u0259ifliyind\u0259n v\u0259 daxili \u00e7\u0259ki\u015fm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 ed\u0259n yad \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259min \u00f6lk\u0259y\u0259 y\u00fcr\u00fc\u015f edib o \u00f6lk\u0259ni talan etmi\u015fl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

\u0130st\u0259r ki\u015fi ist\u0259r qad\u0131n \u0259dal\u0259tl\u0259 r\u0259ftar ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yi add\u0131m\u0131 atmal\u0131d\u0131r.\u00c7\u0259k\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yi y\u00fck\u00fc \u00e7\u0259km\u0259lidir.Bir qad\u0131na uyubda \u00f6vlad\u0131 ata qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131nda m\u0259hrum edib b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259k olmaz.Qocal\u0131b \u0259ld\u0259n d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fckd\u0259 ,x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259 \u00fcz -\u00fcz\u0259 qalanda elan v\u0259 ya hans\u0131sa bir verli\u015f\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131 axtar\u0131ram-m\u0259ni ba\u011f\u0131\u015flas\u0131n-dem\u0259k art\u0131q \u00e7ox gec deyilmi?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00c7OX EVL\u0130LY\u0130N S\u018fB\u018fB OLDU\u011eU \u00c7\u018fT\u0130NL\u0130KL\u018fR Yazaca\u011f\u0131m bu m\u0259qal\u0259 \u00e7ox evliliyin v\u0259 ya qeyri-qanuni ya\u015fayamlar\u0131n \u00e7ox zaman t\u00f6r\u0259tdiyi ziyanl\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r.Baxmayaraq ki,n\u0259inki m\u00fcs\u0259lman \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259,ba\u015fqa din\u0259 m\u0259nsub \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 ta q\u0259dimd\u0259n \u00e7oxevlilik olmu\u015f,hal-haz\u0131rda da davam edir.Bu b\u0259z\u0259n normal qar\u015f\u0131lansada \u00e7ox zaman t\u0259nqid h\u0259d\u0259fi olmu\u015fdur.M\u00fcasir z\u0259man\u0259mizd\u0259 texnikan\u0131n s\u00fcr\u0259tl\u0259 inki\u015faf\u0131 telefon,internet vasit\u0259l\u0259ri,x\u00fcsusi tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q \u00fcnvanlar\u0131 art\u0131qca \u00e7ox t\u0259ss\u00fcf ki,b\u0259zi y\u00fcng\u00fcl […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4636","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-pub"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4636","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4636"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4636\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6507,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4636\/revisions\/6507"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4636"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4636"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edebiyyat-az.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4636"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}